Thomas Payne Gourlay

Message from Abi fFrguson

Forever thinking, loving and missing you grandpa. Thank you for being the most happy, giving person I know.
Rest in peace
Love Abi

Message from Margaret Kilkenny

Dear Nora & family, My sincere condolences. Tom will be sadly missed, in particular that great big smile that always greeted us in JFK. We knew that instant we would enjoy every minute of our trip. Nothing was too much trouble & you were always a great man to tell a story. We enjoyed many delicious homemade cocktails in North Babylon & we shared some great times. I will always cherish these times. May you rest in peace. Margaret Kilkenny 💕

A candle was lit by Olivia..💕 on January 24, 2018 11:03 AM

A candle was lit by Margaret Kilkenny on January 24, 2018 11:00 AM

A candle was lit by Nancy Zirker on January 24, 2018 10:11 AM

A candle was lit by Denise Breen on January 24, 2018 9:26 AM

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Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away to the next room.
I am I and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other, that, we still are.
Call me by my old familiar name.
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect.
Without the trace of a shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same that it ever was.
There is absolute unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you.
For an interval.
Somewhere very near.
Just around the corner.
All is well.
Nothing is past; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before only better, infinitely happier and forever we will all be one together with Christ.
- Henry Scott Holland

A candle was lit by Lili Ferguson on January 24, 2018 8:40 AM

Message from Lili Ferguson

You were such a generous, positive, funny guy who I am lucky to call my Grandpa! You never failed to make Abs and I, and all the other crazy grandkids, laugh and smile with your many jokes and stories. There's not enough words to describe how much we already miss you and how much we love you. Rest in Peace Gramps, we're always thinking of you, forever in our hearts xxxx

A candle was lit by Brendan and Buntharika Kilkenny and family on January 23, 2018 2:26 PM

Message from Brendan, Buntharika, Takechi, Peter, Orlaith, Carraig and Carragh

To all the Gourlay family, we would like to offer our deepest sympathies at this time. Tom always had a smile and a joke for us when he visited with aunty Nora.
May he rest in peace.

Message from Joe Norowski

Tom, although we only had a short period of time to spend short visits together you were an inspiration. I am so sorry you had to suffer through these past few years but you never let your situation affect how you treated me and always welcomed my visits. A truer friend cannot be found.
I mourn for you and your beautiful family who you were and should be proud of. I will miss you forever and in moments at my club pokers games I will always remember you. It's how we first met and it is important to note that you were the only player that I ever mentored who never lost a penny.
I hope to meet you somewhere down the road, because I know you are going to be in the company of many blessed people.
My heart goes out to Nora and all your family.Rest in Peace my dear friend.

Expression of Sympathy

A Morning Bright was sent on January 22, 2018

Dearest Erin, We are so sorry to hear about the passing of your Grandpa. Please know that we are thinking of you and your Family. With Deepest Sympathy, Your Aramis and Designer Fragrance Family

Message from Christy Kilkenny

To a great brother in law, thank you so much for the great times you gave us, when we visited New York, the lovely trips we had together. Also the great effort you made trying to make me a better golfer, the day you took us to that great golf club,"Winged Foot". My ability to play golf did not improve but what an experience. Play well. We will meet again sometime I hope on some fairway. Christy. XX

Message from Erin Krug

Went to mass in Bklyn at the church where you got married today Grandpa. Crazy to think thats where it all began. Now we have the best family in the world. Miss you and love more than words could ever say. Shine bright on us. i love you

Message from Fran Kilkenny

RIP Uncle Tom. You truly were one of the best. Xxx

A candle was lit by Fran, Dave, Jess and Chloe. on January 22, 2018 3:32 PM

Expression of Sympathy

An Enchanted Cottage was ordered on January 22, 2018

A candle was lit by Matt & Deb Skiko Love and miss my dad. on January 22, 2018 3:02 PM

Expression of Sympathy

An A Beautiful Heart Bouquet was ordered on January 22, 2018

A candle was lit by kim orlando on January 22, 2018 11:40 AM

Message from Dave Kilkenny

RIP to Uncle Tom! Always had a smile and a twinkle in his eye for mischief! Tom, you will be dearly missed! Dave

Message from Paul Kilkenny

Despite only short, sporadic encounters with you in my life you were always a warm, funny, and a great person to be in the company of. My favourite memories of you will always be sitting back in the reclining chair in your den in the house on Long Island in 2006 and chatting about life, not to mention the little whiskey hip flask you gave when I was leaving which I still have to this day. Or back in 1994 trying to hit golf balls into the net in the garage as a young teenager. Great times and great memories.

You've lived a long, happy, and prosperous life with my wonderful Aunt Nora, and together where you've seen your family prosper and become the epitome of your values and personality. Rest in Peace.

A candle was lit by Dave Kilkenny on January 22, 2018 11:31 AM

A candle was lit by Paul Kilkenny on January 22, 2018 11:27 AM

Expression of Sympathy

A Care and Compassion Spray was sent on January 22, 2018

PRAYERS AND DEEPEST SYMPATHY FROM KATHY AND ED SKIKO AND ALL MATT'S SIBLINGS. MAY TOM REST IN PEACE WITH THE LORD.

A candle was lit by Naomi, Andy, Oscar and Casper Jones xxxx on January 22, 2018 10:54 AM

Message from Michelle, Brian, Ben, Ally & Lucy

Our deepest sympathy to you all at this very sad time, you are all in our thoughts and prayers xx

A candle was lit by Michelle & Brian Cunningham on January 22, 2018 9:51 AM

A candle was lit by Christina Swiderski on January 22, 2018 8:15 AM

A candle was lit by Christina Swiderski on January 22, 2018 8:14 AM

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I am saddened to hear of Uncle Tom’s passing...my deepest sympathy and condolences to everyone who knew and loved him. He had a wonderful life and was adored by his family...he was a lucky man! May your memories bring you peace at this difficult time and beyond. ❤️🙏

Message from Patrick Sears

I'm so sorry for your loss. Mr. Gourlay was truly one of the good guys in this world and he will be greatly missed. My deepest condolences to the family.

With love and sympathy,

Patrick

A candle was lit by Patrick Sears on January 22, 2018 8:01 AM

A candle was lit by Nora Gourlay on January 22, 2018 7:51 AM

Message from Sarah & Mick

We are saddened to hear of the loss of your beloved Tom.We hope the love of family and friends will be a comfort to you at this difficult time.You are all in our prayers and thoughts.
God bless.
Sarah , Mick ,Amy & Steven

A candle was lit by PJ & Cathy Kilkenny xoxo on January 21, 2018 9:44 PM

Expression of Sympathy

A Simply Elegant Spathiphyllum was ordered on January 21, 2018

A candle was lit by Jean & Jack Pantano on January 21, 2018 8:47 PM

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To the Gourlay Family,
We are so sorry for the loss of your Dear Husband and Dad.

A candle was lit by Diane Werner on January 21, 2018 8:26 PM

A candle was lit by Michael Senk on January 21, 2018 7:53 PM

Expression of Sympathy

A Simply Elegant Spathiphyllum was sent on January 21, 2018

With deepest sympathy, Michael & Jennifer Kelly and Glenn & Elaine Bezold

Expression of Sympathy

A Simply Elegant Spathiphyllum was ordered on January 21, 2018

Message from Marion, Donal & Jack Byrne

Dear Nora, Tom Jnr, Debbie, Denise & Marion.
Our sincere condolences on the passing of a truly wonderful husband and Dad.. My heart breaks for you guys. Uncle Tom or as he liked us to call him "Unk the punk" was one in a million.. He always went above & beyond when anyone from our family visited the states. Nothing was too much trouble. He had such a great sense of fun & you were always guaranteed a laugh while in his company. I have fond memories of our trip to Coney Island & our spin on the wooden roller coaster with Uncle Tom.
It was so lovely to have him home for our wedding in 2014 and I'm so very grateful to have spent that time with him..
May his gentle soul rest in peace.. 💕
Love to you all. Marion, Donal & Jack.

A candle was lit by Marion Byrne xx on January 21, 2018 5:59 PM

A candle was lit by Trudy Frey on January 21, 2018 5:36 PM

A candle was lit by Jacqueline Swiderski on January 21, 2018 5:34 PM

Expression of Sympathy

An Enchanted Cottage was ordered on January 21, 2018

A candle was lit by Maureen McMahon on January 21, 2018 4:14 PM

Expression of Sympathy

A Care and Compassion Spray was sent by Matt and Pat Gourlay on January 21, 2018

Message from Marian Gourlay

There are so many things I'd love to share about my father to everyone, but the most important is how much he will be missed, how loved he is and how I will cherish him in my heart for always. I love you DAD! Yours always, Mazzie

A candle was lit by Jennifer & Aunt Trudy on January 21, 2018 1:34 PM

Expression of Sympathy

A Joyful Memory was ordered on January 21, 2018

A candle was lit by Denise on January 21, 2018 1:30 PM

A candle was lit by Marian Gourlay on January 21, 2018 1:29 PM

Message from Denise

So sad to say goodbye to my beautiful, loving father. RIP Dad xoxo

Message from Alan

Hey Chief! Thank you for all the love, support and guidance you gave me. A large part of my success in life is down to you.
I could not have asked for a better father in law. I look back at all the great times we had together at Chelsea Ave, all the holiday parties, the numerous sporting events we went to together and various trips across the USA and Europe. Some of my greatest times were spent with you. You were such a kind, generous and positive person. You truly were one of the good guys and it was a privilege to have known you. I miss you. Till we meet again. Love you always. Cheers Al

A candle was lit by Abi Ferguson on January 21, 2018 9:23 AM

Message from Olivia Kilkenny

RIP to a very special guy Uncle Tom.I am so very thankful for the wonderful memories I got to share with him from my trips to Long Island and of course his many trip to Ireland. My first trip to the U.S was the one of the hottest summers in 50 year's and we were met in JFK by Uncle Tom and Aunt Nora. And what an adventure we had from day trips to Robert Moses beach. Cocktail making, bbqs and beers all for my benefit of course!!! And our car ride to get KFC because he knew I liked it. And it was on that car ride I got alot of relationship advice, that was needed at the time. Uncle Tom was so good for keeping in touch and he took a keen interest in my life. From letters with sales coupons in it when he knew we were taking a trip to the states. To general fun letters with lots of humour. He had a great sense of humour and his emails always contained a good joke in them. I will miss his kind and fun nature. But am so very grateful to have had him as my 'Unk the punk'! RIP.. xx